The people we depict ourselves to be are so different from the people we actually are on the inside. For the longest time, I've always thought that it was cool to be just an emotionless shell of a person. Now I know, it's not. It's not cool, nor interesting to be that person. It isn't interesting to suppress your feelings. Relationships go so much deeper when we're honest with others and actually say what's on our mind. Despite this, we're often expected to hide our insecurities, fears, and the flaws in our character.
A lot of times, we're asked, "How are you?". The proper response to this question is something along the lines of "Good. And yourself?" despite the fact that you just happened to bomb a final. It's sad really that we must put on this mask of strength in front of others and have pity on ourselves behind a closed door. I'm sure that the world wouldn't be a better place if everyone responded with bitter remarks about why their world is collapsing on them. However, I think it would be a better place if people would respond honestly.
On the other hand, there is a time for everything; it wouldn't be wise for you to break down to your boss, but it is okay you to tell them that you are having a bad day. There is a social context for everything and it is a matter of discernment - which comes from wisdom and experience.
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I think you might really enjoy Riverside's lyrics. They write on this subject quite a lot, and quite soulfully. I'm giving you their album Out of Myself, whether you want it or not! And for a blatant example, there's a beautifully strange song, Schizophrenic Prayer, on Rapid Eye Movement. You should check it out!
ReplyDeleteThis discernment you mentioned also comes with compassion. Honesty, wisdom and compassion... Now that is a good recipe.